Pain, whether it be physical or emotional, is unavoidable in life. We all try our best to avoid pain, almost at all costs. As a society, we make every effort imaginable to avoid, end, or numb, all pain in life. Yet, the more we try, I feel the more we end up still in pain and not feeling at peace or happy. According to the US Centers for Disease Control & Prevention, “In 2012, health care providers wrote 259 million prescriptions for opioid pain medication, enough for every adult in the United States to have a bottle of pills.”
Talking about pain leads to many questions, both practical and philosophical/spiritual. In my life experience, I have found that the two main questions asked about pain are: “Why do I feel pain?” and “Why does a loving God allow pain?” For the purpose of this article, I would like to focus on the former question, why do we feel pain? Maybe if we understood the “why” we would better understand how best to cope with pain.
According to Barbara Finlay “The basic function of pain is the same for all vertebrates: it alerts an animal to potential damage and…Write comment (0 Comments)
Ed note: I am pleased to present this post from guest blogger Ms. Amanda LePore.
I have anxiety. It runs in my family, so I should have expected it (thanks a lot, genes!). Growing up, I felt that I wasn’t completely “normal.” (insert all the jokes about me being an “awkward weirdo” here) I mean, don’t get me wrong, I had a great childhood with a loving family, great friends, etc., but I noticed that I would act a bit differently than my friends. I was a “goody-two-shoes,” but to the point where I would cry and it would be a huge deal when someone was mad at me or I got in trouble. In hindsight, I had a lot of guilt over things that now I realize weren’t that big of a deal. One memory is from 2nd grade when I told my friend that a lunch lady was fat and having that friend go and tattle on me… then I needing help getting my shoes tied and the only person available was the one I had insulted. I felt like such an awful person (this was one of the things I confessed at my first Holy Communion……Write comment (0 Comments)
In my latest podcast episode (listen to it below) I interviewed author John Vespasian about rational living. In the interview he described rational living as to "put emotions in the right frame ... in reality". Rational living, a derivative of Rational Emotive Therapy as well as Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy, rational living emphasizes an approach to life based on fact, objectives, and an "entrepreneurial" approach. According to John Vespasian: "Anyone who wants to attain happiness and effectiveness must start by adopting an entrepreneurial attitude." Why? "Crusaders are motivated by the desire to win over their opponents. Entrepreneurs want to find buyers for their products, even if the rest of the world laughs at them." For Mr. Vespasian, a "crusader" may end his cause based on how he feels emotionally about the following, or lack thereof, for the cause. Yet, the entrepreneur's approach to life is more calculated and based on fact, not emotion.
Vespasian wrote: "Our history repeatedly shows the value of rational thinking – and the limitations of overlooking reality." In his latest book he uses examples from history to confirm his thesis that facts, not "self-help maxims of positive thinking" are what brings us true happiness and success.
In the interview I asked Mr. Vespasian, "based on rational living, a person who is anxious and depressed with the current world affairs, how can they find happiness?" His answer may surprise you! What are your views on rational living and Vespasian's approach?
John Vespasian is the author of several books, his latest titled: "On Becoming Unbreakable: How Normal People Become Extraordinarily Self-Confident". You can find his books by clicking here, and his blog is located here.
Here's the interview:
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Based on my experience, there are two main reasons we have trouble sleeping: either because you are excited about something upcoming, or you are anxious about something upcoming. I can still vividly remember that night before we as a family were leaving for Washington, DC for the first time. I was a child then, and the thought of travelling all the way to where the president lives was almost overwhelming for me. I tossed and turned in bed; walked around my room, looked out my window into the dark, and before I knew it, I looked out my window to see the sun rising above the horizon. I finally fell asleep in the car during the over 8 hour drive to DC.
Personally, I suffered for many years on Sunday nights trying to get some sleep. I dreaded Sunday nights because as soon as I would lie down in bed for the night the worries and stress of the upcoming week flooded into my thoughts. I had not yet found the peace of living mindfully, and so I allowed the thoughts of the future to take over, believing the worst of what could happen come Monday morning at work. Note…Write comment (0 Comments)
I often talk about mindful living, yet I recognize the difficulty in fully understanding not only what it means, but also how it "looks". When I first saw this video on social media I immediately said to myself "this is what mindfulness is all about!"
After watching this video reflect back on your experience, noticing your thoughts at time (past, present, or future), and recall your emotions while watching the video. Although not created for this purpose, this video draws us to focus on the present and stay there. Living in the present moment is the point of mindfulness and mindful meditation. [facebook url="https://www.facebook.com/1731212513792521/videos/1741001856146920/" /]
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